Those of you who follow me on Twitter probably already heard about this one, but it's been bothering me for a few days, so I thought I'd open it to the group.
At Grasshopper's swim lesson last week, I was chatting with the grandmother of another 3 year old boy in the class, who happens to be a fifth grade teacher. During the course of the conversation, I mentioned that we were working towards another adoption. Our conversation then went something like this:
Her: "Oh! Grasshopper is adopted?"
Her: "How old was he when you got him?"
Me: "20 days old."
Her:"Wow! That's almost like you're his mother!"
I said NOTHING. I just sat there gulping air like a fish while she prattled on about how lucky Grasshopper is to have a terrific and loving family. I was horrified, but had NO IDEA how to respond to such blatant ignorance. She was obviously happy for us, but my GAWD, how can anyone say such a thing?
I have felt guilty for my silence ever since.
This woman teaches children at a really formative point in their lives. I get sick to my stomach thinking about her saying something like that to an adopted child under her tutelage. Someone who, at 11 years old, would take her seriously, and be unable to recognize her ignorance for what it is.
That session of swim lessons is over, and I don't know if I'll ever see this woman again, but it's been weighing on my mind. What should I have said, Dear Internets? What is the correct response to someone who obviously means well, but is so blindsidingly (yes, I think I just invented that word) STUPID?