So. I haven't blogged about the adoption in a while. Mostly because there wasn't a whole lot of progress to report. (I also forgot basic punctuation and grammar rules, apparently).
JR has been so overwhelmingly busy, and traveling so much for work that it has been virtually impossible to coordinate efforts like going for physicals and drug screens (which we've done), heading out to be fingerprinted and criminal background-checked (which we haven't done), and most importantly to immediate progress, finishing our self-studies. The self-study portion of a homestudy is where you essentially write your autobiography and then answer a bunch of invasive questions about yourself, your relationships and your parenting in the present and future. It is Not Fun. Mine has been done for weeks, but JR has been having a difficult time not only with writing it, but finding the time for it. When something so important hinges on your words, you want to get them just right and that's hard to do late at night after a long day of dealing with vendors and employees and business partners and travel. He finally finished it up over the weekend, and I promptly emailed it to the social worker so that we could arrange our second visit with her.
I'm trying to set up this second visit this week, because next week JR heads out on another trip and my heart just really can't take another multi-week delay. We'll see. I have to keep reminding myself that although she is our only social worker, we are by no means her only clients. Sigh.
I was filling out the requisite financial forms before bed last night (never a good idea) and proceeded to sleep fitfully, even getting up at midnight to see if the social worker had responded to my emails requesting an appointment time this week. She hadn't.
Just before the alarm (also known as my child) started going off this morning, I was trapped in a troubling dream:
JR and I had gotten The Phone Call. A birthmother had chosen us to parent her newborn daughter and we needed to get to her right away. The baby was in an Inuit village on a tiny island off the coast of Alaska and the only way to reach it because of the ice flows was by plane. We were waiting in an airplane terminal (not unlike the one in Wings) and a man who lived on the island and was going to be on our flight walked up and asked why were were traveling there. We told him that we were going to meet our new daughter and then bring her home.
He walked away with tears in his eyes and pulled out his cell phone. He made a call and I heard him say, "It's today. They're taking her today." Somehow I knew that he was talking to the birthfather.
The next thing I knew we were on a tiny plane that could accommodate 6 passengers, and all of the seats were full. No one would meet my eyes. We took off over very rough ice cloaked seas and our tiny aircraft was being buffeted by strong winds and I was trying not to vomit. Fog swirled in and I could no longer see. The turbulence got worse and worse and it felt like we were hurtling towards something horrible when a small voice called, "Daddy? Mommy? Good morning Mommy!"
Yeah. Anyone care to take a guess as to what all of that was about?
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Oh sweetie, I can only imagine the stress of this process. Remember dreams are a good outlet - if you can remember they are only dreams.
Sleep well tonight knowing you are "this" much closer to meeting your new child.
Maybe your dream signifies the process is starting to move forward & there is still always some unknown-thus making you weary.
Congratulations on moving ahead and best of luck to you. I only know you through your blog, but I can see any child will be extremely blessed to join your family.
Dreams can be so unnerving sometimes but they're just dreams. I think it means you're getting closer, you're making important steps in the right direction. Now take some deep breaths.
And no more forms right before bed,
I had the craziest dreams when I was pregnant. That I gave birth to a dog, that the baby was a girl (neither time), that I forgot to buy clothes, furniture, food, etc., that the baby could talk...
Your brain's just on overload and instead of thinking rational thoughts, we come up with this stuff.
I agree with Karen, no more form-filling before bed.
Oh man, no wonder you couldn't sleep! You're under a ton of stress and pressure and I can't even begin to imagine what you must be feeling. But it's good that things are moving forward (albeit slowly) and I look forward to more updates!
It's going to get rougher before it gets better? (and now who's usuing good grammer huh?)
Hang in there. It seems neverending but I promise it'll end and the results (as you know) are worth it.
I'm sorry this is so hard. But you're getting closer every day.
I hate to leave nothing but a cliche, but it's all I got:
Hang in there. You are getting closer every day, and all this stress will be forgotten experience.
...thinking of you and wishing you all the best...
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